8 Truths about Marriage from 50 Words of Jesus

Many people assume that because Jesus had little to say on marriage during His ministry on earth that He was open to the flexibility of this institution including the acceptance of same sex marriage. But is this true?

While Jesus said little about marriage, what He did say is packed with such depth of insight that only Jesus could unfold so much in so few words. We need not consider what He said about the issue of divorce and remarriage. The substance of what Jesus said on marriage can be ascertained from His positive affirmation of the institution in Matthew 19:4-6. These 3 verses contain 50 words Jesus spoke on the subject. From these 50 words (in the Greek text) we discover 8 truths about marriage.

“Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female.” (vs. 4)

  1. Marriage is Heterosexual

Jesus goes to the beginning – to the creation itself to substantiate the divine design for marriage. He quotes from Genesis 1 to say God made humanity male and female. If God had designed marriage between people of the same sex then why would Jesus lay the foundation for marriage by making an appeal to this fundamental distinction in genders? The institution of marriage is rooted in the way God created human beings right from the very start. He did not create a suitable marriage partner for Adam by creating another male. He made a female. Some say Jesus never condemned homosexuality. The fact is, He did something better. He pointed to the blueprint.

  1. Marriage is Complementary

Because God made male and female, he made marriage to be a complementary union. Marriage is not about sameness between partners. What makes marriage exciting and causes it to flourish is in the diversity that exists between male and female, between masculinity and femininity.  Men and women complement one another in every way – physically, sexually, psychologically, and even spiritually. But because men and women are each created in God’s image, even though they are different and fulfill different roles, they stand on equal ground before their Creator.

  1. Marriage is Monogamous

When God made Adam and Eve, He made only one of each.  He did not make a plurality of females to be joined to Adam. God did not design marriage to be polygamous. Now of course as soon as sin entered the world so did non-monogamous marriages. Polygamy proliferated in Biblical times, even among God’s people. But Jesus indicates it was never meant to be that way.  Even though we don’t generally practice polygamy today, people frequently violate monogamous marriage by joining themselves to others as if they were married. The culture of hooking up in our society today has virtually replaced monogamy with something that just as well be polygamy.

“And said, ‘A Man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh?’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh” (vs. 5-6a)

  1. Marriage is Exclusive

When a man gets married he is called to leave his parents and be joined to his wife. This means that a new partnership in matrimony grows out of a previous partnership in matrimony. Notice the previous partnership involved a male and a female. This indicates the exclusive nature of marriage. Marriage is the most important human relationship God ever made and that explains why it is also the first relationship He made. No other relationship should be allowed to interfere with the marriage relationship – neither parents nor children nor outside interlopers. Marriage requires absolute fidelity.

  1. Marriage is Mutual

When a man and a woman leave their parents to join in matrimony they are making a voluntary commitment to one another.  Fidelity and mutuality go together.  Marriage is not about one’s self. It is not about meeting personal needs.  It is not about setting conditions upon the marriage partner. “I will love you, if you do this and that.”  Marriage is an unconditional covenant bond not a contract. 

Our society views marriage like a contract.  In a contract two parties have certain obligations for a particular period of time.  If at any time one of the parties violates the terms of the contract and neglects their obligations then the contract is terminated and the other party is free to walk away.  Contracts are conditional. 

Marriage as the Bible describes it is covenantal and that means it is unconditional. When two people come together in marriage, they are vowing to serve one another, to lift up the well-being of the other as their first priority.  This means exercising steadfast love and grace because people are sinners.  Contract marriages depend on the ability not to sin if they are to work.  Biblical marriages are designed to operate on grace because it recognizes that sin is real and it can never be avoided in one’s spouse.

  1. Marriage is Intimate

When a man and a woman are joined together Christ says they become “one flesh.” Many think this refers simply to the consummation of marriage in sexual union. That is true and it is one of the wonderful and exclusive gifts that God grants married people. Nothing destroys marriage more when a sexual union is established outside the bonds of marriage. It is a gift that people have repeatedly trashed and trivialized to point that it no longer reflects the intimacy it was designed to enhance. 

But the fact is, the exclusive sexual union in marriage is the result of a deeper kinship that marriage is designed to create. God purposed spouses to be soulmates. He designed a man and a woman to be so drawn to one another that an indissoluble bond of trust and confidence is developed between one another.  This soulish union brings the joy of sex to a place of deeper intimacy than just physical. But it also shows that when sexual infidelity takes place, that oneness is utterly shattered and sometimes irreparably. 

“What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” (vs. 6b)

  1. Marriage is Permanent

Marriage was designed to be permanent.  In Malachi 2:16, God says with all the authority and power invested in His being as the Lord of this universe: “I hate divorce.” There is nothing more tragic in God’s eyes then when two married sinners cannot extend grace and forgiveness toward one another and they break the marriage covenant they vowed to uphold.  Certainly sin wreaks havoc in marriages and the Bible makes some exceptions for believers in which divorce as a last resort is justified.  But even in those exceptions, the first thought should always be grace and reconciliation. When Christ betrothed the Church as His beloved bride His promise is to extend His devotion to her for all eternity. His grace rescued us from our own rebellion and even when we stumble badly as God’s children, he forgives and restores us to fellowship with Himself.  This same undeserving grace should be extended towards spouses when they violate God’s design for marriage.

  1. Marriage is Sacred

When two people get married we say it is a relationship sanctioned and honored by the government, our family and friends and of course the two people getting married.  But marriage is not merely a civil bond that generates only human approval. It is something that God Himself approves and sanctions.  In fact, it is a bond that He Himself oversees. 

When you got married did you ever think that it was not the minister who married you? It wasn’t the justice of the peace.  Rather it was God Himself that joined you and put His stamp of approval upon your marriage. When you make your vows of marriage you are saying,

God, I offer this marriage to You so that You might be honored and glorified. Should I do anything to mar my marriage vows I stand accountable to You, because You are the one who joined me to my spouse. I answer to You for how I conduct myself in this marriage and I pray You will infuse me with all Your grace and power to love and cherish my spouse no matter what transpires that seeks to constrain me from doing so.

When these essential features of marriage embodied in the infallible words of Jesus are upheld then marriages abide by God’s design. Only when people listen to the voice of Christ will marriage experience a long needed revival in our day. Only then will married couples experience deep satisfaction and joy. Then perhaps we might see marriage flourish again, and in turn society will flourish. 


What to Look for in a Girl

I have 4 boys, 3 of whom are teenagers. So this means there is a good deal of talk about girls, dating, marriage and what not. When our oldest started thinking about girls a few years ago these discussions began in earnest. I decided to put together a guide to help them think about what to look for in a girl they wanted to date and eventually of course the girl they would like to marry. This is not our philosophy about dating. It’s just about girls. So here we go!

Qualities to Look for in a Girl to Date or Marry (mostly in order of importance):

This is a guide, not a set of rules. It contains mostly questions to start thinking about what to look for in a girl. The qualities represent something of an ideal set of circumstances. You must realize that nobody is perfect and you should never look for somebody perfect because there is no such person. We are all sinners in constant need of God’s grace as well as grace from one another. If you set your expectations too low, you will be disappointed. Likewise, if you set them too high you will be disappointed. Of course set your expectations reasonably high but be prepared to extend grace. Also realize that you yourself don’t meet the perfect ideal in a man. So you should expect grace to be shown to you too. The first section is non-negotiable, a girl must be committed in her relationship to Christ. Some of the questions in last two sections are somewhat more flexible and subjective. Some things might be more important to you than others and you might think of still others.

Non-negotiable Qualities (needs to be determined ASAP):

  1. She must be a genuine Christian.
  2. She must be a committed Christian.  How do you know if she is? 
  • Does she knows the gospel well and she can articulate it?
  • Is she consistently involved in a Biblical Church by participating and serving?
  • Does she express humility and joy in her relationship with Christ?
  • Does she read her Bible and pray regularly?
  • Does she consistently seek to grow in her faith and obedience to Christ and God’s Word?
  • Does she enjoy being with other Christians more than non-Christians?
  • Does she show spiritual (Biblical) discernment and avoid worldly behavior?
  • Does she enjoy Christian media, music, books and movies with God-honoring Biblical content?

 Initial (but also long-term) Qualities (as you are getting to know her):

  1. Is she ‘forward’ or reserved? Does she show respect for male leadership? Does she let the man lead and initiate things without trying to undermine or manipulate him?
  2. Is she attractive not just on the outside but especially the inside?
  3. Does she dress modestly and not wear too much make-up? Does she make herself appear alluring in a sexual way? Does she appear and conduct herself like a ‘lady’?
  4. Is she guarded with her emotions and affections? Is she quick to express her emotions in a way that draws attention to herself? How quick is she to express affection with words (e.g. flattery) or physical gestures (e.g.hugging) especially publicly?
  5. Does she have a pleasant personality, one that is not too wild, giddy, pretentious or stuck up (arrogant)?
  6. Does she like to gossip? Does she know when to speak up and to remain silent? Does she show respect for others  and act respectably herself?  Does she exhibit integrity (does she have her act together)? 

Long-term Qualities (once you get to know her more):

  1. Does she show respect for her parents? If she has no respect for her parents (particularly her dad), then chances are she will have no respect for you.
  2. Does she see her highest calling as being a wife and a mother, or a career person? Does she love kids?
  3. Is she kind, compassionate and understanding? Is she easily angered or frustrated? Is she patient with difficult people including yourself?
  4. Is she willing to forgive when wronged and to ask forgiveness when she is wrong?
  5. Does she tend to be encouraging to others or put them down?
  6. Is she selfish? Is she mostly concerned for herself, or does she think of others too?
  7. Does she show courage and strength of conviction for what is right and good and true? Does she tend to be wishy-washy about important matters?
  8. Does she have intelligence and good common sense? Does she show wisdom and discernment in practical matters? Is she smart or foolish in how she spends her money? Is she a compulsive buyer?
  9. Is she conservative politically and socially (e.g. abortion, same sex marriage, etc.)?
  10. Does she tend to be lazy or a diligent worker? Is she sloppy or careless?
  11. Is she flexible in matters that are not important and teachable in things that are? Does she express her opinions respectfully and respect the opinions of others including yours? Is she argumentative?
  12. Does she enjoy some of the same things you enjoy? How similar are your tastes?
  13. Does she have a good sense of humor and enjoy laughing? Is her humor compatible with yours?

What About Free Will? (Part 8)

I am writing a book on the ever thorny, controversial, misunderstood topic of free will.  Over the course of several few weeks, I am blogging about the issue.  I invite your feedback, as this will help me fine tune the contents of my book.


Scripture affirms that the heart of our wanting, desiring and choosing in a particular direction stems from acting in what we perceive to be in our best interest. This is the fountainhead of all other desires, motives and preferences (see Part 7). I will consider these corollary causes in this post. They form the next layer down in the cause-effect paradigm of human choosing as indicated by our next proposition.

What we want to do is always in accordance with our Desires

Specific desires, motives, inclinations, passions, preferences, etc. are the immediate causes affecting the choices a person wants to make. The endless combinations of these various internal dispositions stem from that most basic of motives – self-interest. We do what we think at the moment of choosing is the thing that will benefit us the most.

The Apostle James connects specific actions we choose to engage in to the internal desires that drive our choices, in this case, sinful ones:

What is the source of quarrels and conflicts among you? Is not the source your pleasures that wage war in your members? You lust and do not have; so you commit murder. You are envious and cannot obtain; so you fight and quarrel. You do not have because you do not ask. You ask and do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, so that you may spend it on your pleasures. (James 4:1-3)

 Evil desires produce envious expectations and lusts that are not met, thus provoking choices resulting in quarrels and conflicts and even murder. Others pray for resources to fulfill immoral pleasures. Those prayers go unanswered because the motives are wrong. Earlier James says: “Each one is tempted when he is carried away and enticed by his own lust. Then when lust has conceived, it gives birth to sin” (vss. 14-15). The Apostle presumes these immoral motives undergird personal responsibility. Again culpability for our actions stems from the intentions behind our actual choices not from the libertarian idea that we could’ve chosen otherwise. 

Internal motives and desires are the engines that drive human action. However, these internal factors can be influenced by external factors as well. Every situation has a unique set of circumstances that influence one’s choices. People, media, culture, our upbringing and education all influence us. At every turn multiple external factors weigh heavily upon the way we think, what our hearts crave and the direction our choosing leans. 

The extent to which these external influences have compelling value or constraining power determines the degree of causal force they bear. A captivating preacher has more power to persuade than a boring one whose sermons you forget the moment you walk out the church doors. But unless outside influences exert absolute constraints upon the person choosing, their influence is limited. The preacher may compel a man to love his wife, but he cannot force him to. On the other hand, a preacher may not compel a heckler to leave the sanctuary during the sermon, but a 250 pound usher trained in martial arts could; by physically removing the man against his will.

In either case, under most circumstances, the immediate causal power of choosing rests within the person choosing and not outside forces. In the end you cannot wholly praise or blame these external factors for the choices you make. It is your own internal inclinations that are responsible for generating your actions. No option is selected that is disconnected from the most compelling desires that emanate from the heart’s affections and the mind’s intellectual deliberations. This doesn’t mean that every possible contributing cause or influence can be ascertained, only that they reside somewhere among the stewing mixture of ingredients within.  

We always do what we most want to do

We come now to a related proposition that reflects one of the most crucial points in the compatibilist understanding of the human will. People often have what I term conflicting desires or conversely competing desires, but in the end the most persuasive or prevailing desire inevitably determines the choices one makes. People do what they most want to do – that which appears at the moment to be in their best interest or to their greatest advantage. Or as Jonathan Edwards argued, “The will is always determined by the strongest motive.” Now people often regret their choices later, but at the moment of choosing they always do what seems best and most compelling to them at the time.

Conflicting Choices

Conflicting desires usually correspond to situations in which external coercion influences a person to make a choice that under normal circumstances he wouldn’t. We often wrestle with opposing desires that battle within. Tom walks down the street and encounters a thug who demands all his money. He is not favorably inclined to obey such a directive and dismisses the miscreant. But suppose Tom meets the same villainous fellow again and this time he presents a loaded .45 to his head saying, “Give me all your money or I’ll blow your brains out!” This is a bit of a game changer. It produces a new motive Tom didn’t entertain previously. Under these new circumstances he is faced with the dilemma of acting upon one or the other of two conflicting motives. Like most people Tom would rather part with his money (reluctantly of course) than part with his life. Tom’s second choice is far less desirable – it holds little appeal to what he really wants. Nonetheless, it is the more compelling choice and represents what he in fact wants to do most under the circumstances even if it is extremely disagreeable to him.

Many conflicting desires involve no threat from outside forces; rather they reflect intense battles within between opposing thoughts that seek mastery for our souls. Jesus says, “No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to one and despise the other” (Matt. 6:24). These conflicts at their core are moral in nature. The conscience, like an unbending steel beam, remains steadfast and firm in its declaration of what is right. But the heart often overrules the conscience with a path that is contrary to sound judgment; and the heart always prevails (Matt. 6:21). 

Competing Choices

On the other hand, sometimes choices are difficult because of competing desires.  These are not desires in conflict with (opposing) one another; rather they are nearly equal in their positive or negative appeal. Suppose you have received two college scholarships – one to Michigan and the other to Michigan State. You love both universities so which one shall you choose? The choice might be difficult and attended with uncertainty and trepidation. But you weigh the pros and cons and deliberate upon them until reasons emerge for one or the other option. When the final verdict is in, the most persuasive reasons producing the strongest desire will determine whether you will be a Wolverine or a Spartan. The prevailing motives for the winning decision might slightly edge out the loser so that the difference is barely discernible or not even discernible at all. 


Notice our desires variously fluctuate between those attended with intensity and those that are marked by complacency. But in either case, the strongest desire wins the day. For example, when a decision is critical and the options have nearly identical value (whether negative or positive), it drives up the stress factor considerably. We don’t want to make the wrong choice. Whereas, when the options are insignificant, you could just as easily flip a coin. Which of my favorite cereals shall I eat this morning – Captain Crunch or Lucky Charms? It might come down to which box is closest to your hand. But that in itself becomes the prevailing motive. Our choices at times may appear to be random but they never are. In most cases, we rarely think about our motives. We don’t have a running tab in the back of our minds registering pros and cons before making our choices. We just choose and then maybe sort out the motives later if we have to.

What About Free Will? (Part 7)

I am writing a book on the ever thorny, controversial, misunderstood topic of free will.  Over the course of several few weeks, I am blogging about the issue.  I invite your feedback, as this will help me fine tune the contents of my book.

 on Maiden Voyage 

In the following posts I am shifting gears. After surveying the broader forest of divine sovereignty and compatibilism as a whole, I focus now on the narrow set of trees that concern the strictly human side of the compatibilistic equation. I will begin in this post with the immediate act of choosing which lies on the surface of human actions and then uncover successive layers of reasons why people make the choices they do. As we eventually uncover the core source of choosing, a picture will emerge that explains in what ways humans are both free and not so free. To achieve all this, I will set forth a series of propositional statements about the nature of human choosing.

Our Will is Free in that we do what we want to do.

Jonathan Edwards writes, “A man never, in any instance, wills anything contrary to his desires, or desires anything contrary to his will.” In light of this, it is better to speak of people being free rather than the will being free; to speak of free agents, not free wills. The will is not some autonomous dictator that wields power to direct us, rather we direct the will. The source of choosing lies elsewhere; namely via the heart’s affections and the mind’s deliberations by which motives emerge to generate the willing of a choice.

Another way of understanding this notion of voluntary action is that people always act in a way that corresponds with what they believe to be in their best interest. Jesus simplifies this axiom by saying, “Where your treasure is, there your heart will be also” (Matt. 6:21). Blaise Pascal put the matter this way:

All men seek happiness. This is without exception. Whatever different means they employ, they all tend to this end… The will never takes the least step but to this object. This is the motive of every action of every man, even of those who hang themselves.

Self-interest is the base motive of all action even as it is conjoined with other motives that either taint it with vice or transform it into something virtuous. 

Biblically it is appropriate to speak of a natural self-love (i.e. self-interest) people have. This is assumed in the commands Scripture gives about loving your neighbor “as yourself.” In Ephesians 5:29 Paul says no one ever hates their “own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it.” In Philippians 2:4 he says, “Do not look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.” This assumes people naturally think first of their own best interests. The command essentially reframes the Golden Rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” (cf. Matt. 7:12). 

Self-love is a two-edged sword. In our depravity it is used to gratify evil desires and corresponds to greed, covetousness, envy, jealousy, etc. As regenerated believers it is restored to something truly virtuous. Genuine self-interest is finding satisfaction in what brings glory to God and in that which interests Him (Psa. 16:11). If acting in one’s best interest seeks glory for one’s self, then it is clearly sinful. The foundation for one’s pursuit of happiness becomes the self not God; and this is what is normally meant by selfishness or self-centeredness. But when one adheres to what God has established as good and right and true, then one truly acts in his best interest.

Hindrances to Freedom

Both libertarianism and compatibilism are concerned about anything that interferes with human freedom. However, there is disagreement on what constitutes such hindrances. From a libertarian perspective, anything regarded as an antecedent cause for the choices we make impedes the freedom we have to make those choices. But in compatibilism it is not causes per se that prevent freedom, rather the kinds of causes one is talking about. Physical restraints, natural inabilities, moral inabilities, coercion from others, etc. would represent causes that restrict freedom. Other causes promote freedom as we shall see later.

One of the most powerful forces of obstruction to human freedom is constraining actions. Extreme forms of constraint remove freedom altogether. If a Mac truck comes flying around the corner and throws you fifty feet across the street you become a total victim of circumstances outside of your control. You didn’t make the choice to be a projectile and thus you have no freedom in the matter whatsoever. Most absolute forms of constraint are physical in nature. 

Lesser forms of constraint such as coercion are mental in nature. Coercion restricts the voluntary exercise of the will usually through mental manipulation. It seeks to plant an intimidating obstacle within the mind so as to force a person to act against what they otherwise wish. The use of threat by powerful dictators like North Korea’s Kim Jong-un constrains the choices of the citizens of that oppressed nation. Coercion does not eliminate the ability to choose, but it certainly seeks to thwart our choices and the freedom we expect in making them.

Natural and Moral Ability

Compatibilism makes a distinction between natural ability and moral ability. There are some things we have no natural ability to do although we may want to do them. One may have a desire to fly by flapping their arms, but they have no natural ability to do so, therefore their will is constrained.

In some cases a person may have a natural ability to do something he wants to do but is restrained by external physical factors. A prisoner may want to see his wife and children, but his prison cell contains steel bars he cannot break. Also, a person may have lost a natural ability. Consider someone like Joni Eareckson Tada who became a quadriplegic through a diving accident. As much as she may desire to escape her wheelchair to walk, she is physically unable. Natural and physical inabilities hinder one’s general freedom of choice in ordinary matters. 

However, when it comes to spiritual and moral matters we encounter a different sort of hindrance. There are actions man has a natural ability to do but because he suffers from a moral inability he cannot do them. For example, people have a natural ability to exercise faith. We trust our cars will function safely at 65 miles an hour. We trust that the local bank will secure our money once it leaves our hands. Faith is a natural part of human behavior. Yet faith in Christ is impossible so long as people remain in a state of spiritual inertness (i.e. “dead in trespasses and sins” – Eph. 2:1). They have no moral ability to exercise such faith. Furthermore, the Scripture indicates that spiritually dead people lack a desire to do so; they don’t want to believe (Rom. 3:9-18). Their wills are bound by sin so that they cannot and will not believe upon Christ for salvation.

Our Will is not Free in that we can only do what we want to do

Our second principal proposition indicates man is never free to act against his will. People don’t make decisions arbitrarily or for no reason. They always choose only what they want to do. If a person wanted to choose something other than what he did then he would have reasons for doing so.

Edward Smith was the captain of the RMS Titanic. On the night of April 14, 1912, he and his crew ignored six separate warnings that icebergs capable of sinking the passenger liner were within its path. The ship never reduced its speed nor altered its course. By the time it steamed full ahead into the fateful mass of ice it was too late to avoid catastrophe. The ship submersed violently down to the bottom of the sea taking some 1500 of its 2200 plus passengers to their watery deaths. We don’t know why Captain Smith made the decision he did. We can only surmise he thought he had good reasons. But we can be certain of this – if he thought the ship would sink under those conditions he would have had reason to make a different choice (unless of course he harbored sinister desires).

Whatever reasons (i.e. causes) stand behind the choices one makes, those reasons always lead necessarily to that specific choice. First, uncaused choices don’t exist. Secondly, only one choice can arise from the matrix of causes that underlie that choice. The collusion of all specific antecedent causes can never result in multiple outcomes. That would result in an arbitrary, unpredictable, chaotic and purposeless world. God is not the author of disorder. If the same precise circumstances in any given situation were repeated, the outcome would be the same. This necessary cause-effect principle whereby reasons always determine choices also indicates that people don’t face alternative choices without any preference for one or the other.

Nonetheless, Compatibilism doesn’t say that alternative choices are impossible.  If we have a preference for an alternative choice we would have also have alternative reasons for that choice.  Alternative outcomes can occur if alternative preconditions exist (1 Sam. 23:7-14; Matt. 11:20-24). We are free to make different choices, but we are not free to act against the reasons that led to the actual choices we make. The necessity of prior causes affirms determinism. The voluntary nature of our choices indicates freedom is compatible with determinism.

What About Free Will? (Part 6)

I am writing a book on the ever thorny, controversial, misunderstood topic of free will. Over the course of several few weeks, I am blogging about the issue. I invite your feedback, as this will help me fine tune the contents of my book.


In the last post I considered categories of compatibilism that harmonize God’s decretive and preceptive wills. Today we look at patterns of compatibilism that highlights disharmony between God’s two wills where He superintends that which He does not command. In these instances, although human actions match precisely what God decrees, God’s intentions and man’s intentions are diametrically opposed.

Good and Evil Intentions

The clearest example of this category comes from the statement Joseph made to his slave selling brothers. “As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good” (Gen. 50:20). This reflects Genesis 45:5 – “Now do not be grieved or angry with yourselves, because you sold me here, for God sent me before you to preserve life” (vs. 5). In one breathe he acknowledges they “sold” him to Egypt and in the next that “God sent” him there.

Notice the key in Joseph’s statement in Genesis 50:20. The dual explanation for the same event is expressed in the two occurrences of the word “meant.” Joseph’s brothers made a choice and meant one thing and God made a choice and meant another. The two choices had different intentions but worked in harmony to achieve the same end.

The Hardened Heart of Pharaoh

The Exodus of the Israelites from Egyptian slavery is recorded in Exodus 4-14. Here God commands Pharaoh no less than ten times to let His people go. On eight occasions we read Pharaoh hardened his heart. However, on nine occasions we read God hardened Pharaoh’s heart. It was Pharaoh’s express intention to harden his own heart, yet at the same time this reflected the purpose of God.

The incident puts to rest any doubts about the truth of Proverbs 21:1: “The king’s heart is like channels of water in the hand of the LORD; He turns it wherever He wishes” (cf. Psa. 105:25). In hardening Pharaoh’s heart, God is preventing His moral will from being obeyed. This reveals a greater sovereign purpose. God intends to put His glory on display while the Egyptian ruler appears to have no say in the matter (Rom. 9:17).

Yet in spite of God’s unyielding decree, Pharaoh is held responsible for his actions. “Still you exalt yourself against My people by not letting them go” (9:17). In 9:27, Pharaoh acknowledges, “I have sinned…the LORD is the righteous one, and I and my people are the wicked ones.”

Exodus 10:27 sheds further light on the compatibilistic nature of these passages.  “But the LORD hardened Pharaoh’s heart, and he was not willing to let them go.” Here are two wills set side by side. God determines to harden Pharaoh’s heart while Pharaoh is simultaneously unwilling to let the people go. God’s will does not over-ride the human will. The two wills spring forth from each individual and yet at the same time work in concert together to achieve God’s sovereign goal. God’s goal is not in mortal combat with human goals. He is not wrestling with His creatures trying to get them to act against their will. Rather, the human will acts in full complicity with the desires of one’s heart and therein lays culpability.

God Ordains Evil as Judgment

A number of compatibilistic passages picture God using evil rulers to execute judgment upon others. Consider Isaiah 10:5-19. Here Assyria is referred to as the rod of God’s anger and the staff of His indignation (vs. 5). God’s intention is to “send it against a godless nation” (vs. 6) – Israel. If the Assyrians had the ability of contrary choice, then God could not “send” them as His instruments of judgment. But they had no such choice, so they do precisely as God secretly commanded. Do they see themselves fulfilling their role as judges? Not at all. Verse 7 says: “Yet it [Assyria] does not so intend, nor does it plan so in its heart, but rather it is its purpose to destroy and to cut off many nations.” Assyria has no intention of being a righteous judge of peoples. Rather it intends to wallow in vile acts of violence.

Once Assyria has finished its rampage, what is to be said? According to verse 12 God declares she will have “completed all His work.” Okay, no problem, right? Not quite. God responds, “I will punish the fruit of the arrogant heart of the king of Assyria and the pomp of his haughtiness.” What? Isn’t he a tool of righteous judgment? In God’s eyes he is but not in his own. In his heart he is a pompous dictator who desires to sweep up anyone who gets in his way. In fact, he boasts, “By the power of my hand and by my wisdom I did this” (vs. 13).

The Almighty responds in verse 15: “Is the axe to boast itself over the one who chops with it? Is the saw to exalt itself over the one who wields it? That would be like a club wielding those who lift it, or like a rod lifting him who is not wood.” The king of Assyria thinks there is no God but himself. Only a fool thinks he is the wielder when in fact he is the wielded. God uses him as a righteous judge but that is not his own self-perception. Instead God holds him responsible for his villainous intentions. What is his punishment? God “will send a wasting disease among his stout warriors” (vs. 16).  Israel will turn and “burn and devour” him (vs. 17) and God will draw his kingdom to a close “as when a sick man wastes away” (vs. 18).

One is tempted to think this whole episode represents unfair manipulation on God’s part, using people to do His dirty work and then punish them for it. But we tread upon thin ice here. We can easily find ourselves in the midst of Isaiah 45:9: “Woe to the one who quarrels with his Maker – an earthenware vessel among the vessels of earth! Will the clay say to the potter, ‘What are you doing?’ Or the thing you are making say, ‘He has no hands’?” (Cf. Jer. 18:6).

God, Man and Redemption

Compatibilism provides a crucial perspective on God’s plan of redemption via the death of Christ. A vast and diverse tapestry of decisions by multitudes of people had to conspire for Jesus to die according to divine prophecy. Only a master author could write that kind of story. The dual collusion of the divine and human intentions precisely come together in the unfolding of Jesus’ death as two passages in the book of Acts makes clear.

In Acts 2, Peter speaking of Christ, says to the Jews, “This Man, delivered over by the predetermined plan and foreknowledge of God, you nailed to a cross by the hands of godless men and put Him to death” (vs. 23). Peter minces no words as he gives the one event its two-fold explanation.

In Acts 4:27-28 we see the Jerusalem church praying to God: “For truly in this city there were gathered together against Your holy servant Jesus, whom You anointed, both Herod and Pontius Pilate, along with the Gentiles and the peoples of Israel, to do whatever Your hand and Your purpose predestined to occur.” Each of the key instigators of Jesus’ death are listed as pawns on God’s chess board. This in no way suggests they are passive participants. Each makes deliberate decisions that lead to Jesus’ death. And each will bear responsibility for those decisions. Nonetheless, they have fulfilled the prophetic role God has assigned them. Not a single person involved in condemning and crucifying Jesus had libertarian freedom to act otherwise; which might scuttle God’s whole plan of redemption.

Emphasizing the Divine and Human Side of History

The common narrative of Scripture doesn’t usually frame human actions within this compatibilist grid.  Most examples of human action reflect only the visible and immediately perceivable human side of the compatibilistic equation as if God had no role in what takes place. But if we miss the divine role it provokes a skewed and truncated perspective.

On the other hand, sometimes Scripture mentions only the divine side of the equation. In those cases, we are tempted to forget that humans play a responsible role in freely exercising their wills to produce the outcomes of history. The temptation of eager but un-thoughtful Calvinists is to regard these explicit passages of divine sovereignty as ruling out any human responsibility and freedom. This is equally misguided. Regardless of which side is emphasized both are at work as history unfolds. The comprehensive picture compatibilism provides helps us to set human freedom and responsibility within a larger context of God’s sovereignty from which to make better sense of history.

Next I will begin a series of posts examining more closely the human side of the compatibilistic equation. I will explore in what ways we are free and not so free and yet responsible for our decisions in light of God’s sovereignty.

You will be Eaten by Cannibals!


John G. Paton (1824-1907) left a successful inner city ministry in Glasgow, Scotland to become a missionary to the renowned cannibals of the New Hebrides Islands of the South Pacific; a place where less than 20 yrs. earlier 2 missionaries were immediately eaten by cannibals upon arriving on the shore of one of the Islands.

Most of Paton’s trusted Christian friends advised him against such a foolish venture.  In a memorable exchange, one such man, a Mr. Dickson retorted, “The cannibals! You will be eaten by cannibals!”

To this Paton responded: “Mr. Dickson, you are advanced in years now, and your own prospect is soon to be laid in the grave, there to be eaten by worms; I confess to you, that if I can but live and die serving and honoring the Lord Jesus, it will make no difference to me whether I am eaten by cannibals or by worms; and in the Great Day my Resurrection body will rise as fair as yours in the likeness of our risen Redeemer.”

Two great biographies of John Paton are:

King Of The Cannibals: The Story Of John G. Paton, Missionary To The Hebrides

John G. Paton – The Autobiography of the Pioneer Missionary to the New Hebrides

What About Free Will? (Part 5)

I am writing a book on the ever thorny, controversial, misunderstood topic of free will.  Over the course of several few weeks, I am blogging about the issue.  I invite your feedback, as this will help me fine tune the contents of my book.


Today I will begin providing some examples of compatibilism from Scripture that fit two basic categories. In order to understand those categories it is important to draw some distinctions in the will of God. Scripture indicates at least two senses in which the “will” of God is spoken. First, God’s decretive will refers to His sovereign will in which He decrees or determines what will most certainly happen. Secondly, consider God’s preceptive will. This is the revealed will of God in Scripture which declares or instructs us what God has established as righteous, wise, good and true.  Some call this God’s moral will, instructive will or will of command.

God Grants what He Commands

The set of examples I supply today indicates a response of human obedience matching what God has sovereignly decreed. God grants that which He commands. His sovereign decretive will matches His preceptive will.

God Conforms Us to Holiness

In Leviticus 20:7-8 we read: “You shall… be holy, for I am the LORD your God. You shall keep My statutes and practice them; I am the LORD who sanctifies you.” God commands His people Israel to be holy because He Himself is holy. This assumes the recipients have a moral obligation to exercise their wills in obedience. Yet, within the same breathe God states, “I am the Lord who sanctifies you [makes you holy].” Israel is to exercise her will to be holy and yet it is still God who causes her to be holy.

We see the same pattern Philippians 2:12-13: “So then, my beloved, just as you have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your salvation with fear and trembling; for it is God who is at work in you, both to will and to work for His good pleasure.” Paul commands believers to “work out” their salvation; to labor hard “with fear and trembling.” But nothing of this intense work is in vain. He says simultaneously God “is at work in you.”

Sanctifying growth in holiness is not a matter of our working it out alone. We have no intrinsic power to grow Christ-like on our own. Secondly, it doesn’t reflect the passive and powerless cliché, “Let go and let God.” Thirdly, it is not a cooperative effort whereby we do our part and God does His. God is not our co-pilot. Rather we work 100 percent toward the progress of our sanctification while simultaneously trusting that God is 100 percent at work in us.

Rescue through Adherence to Divine Instructions

God often commands others to act in accordance with what He has already promised to grant.This pattern is reflected in Paul’s shipwreck experience in Acts 27. In a moment of desperation when the crew feared for their lives Paul addresses the ship:

I urge you to keep up your courage, for there will be no loss of life among you, but only of the ship.  For this very night an angel of the God to whom I belong and whom I serve stood before me, saying, “Do not be afraid, Paul; you must stand before Caesar; and behold, God has granted you all those who are sailing with you.” Therefore, keep up your courage, men, for I believe God that it will turn out exactly as I have been told. But we must run aground on a certain island. (vss. 22-26)

Paul assures his shipmates that God has “granted” (vs. 24) the lives of everyone on board. Now later, when the ship is running aground, a group of sailors panic and try to escape in a dinghy. Paul scolds the centurion, “Unless these men remain in the ship, you yourselves cannot be saved” (vs. 31). God’s sovereign decree does not abrogate common sense and sound judgment, but is in fact carried out by such. As long as everyone stays together Paul says, “Not a hair from the head of any of you will perish” (vs. 34). Their obedience becomes the means by which God achieves His sovereign purpose.

God Elects to Salvation and Sinners Convert

Consider the doctrine of election. Jesus gives us a dual explanation for conversion: “All that the Father gives Me will come to Me, and the one who comes to Me I will certainly not cast out” (John 6:37). The Father has elected particular followers to be given to His Son as a gift. How does Jesus receive this gift? Does the Father simply dump these followers into His lap? No – they will “come” to Him of their own accord; and as they come Jesus will never cast them out. Why? Because it is the Father’s “will” that Jesus “lose nothing” (vs. 39).

There are two reasons why sinners “come” to Christ. They come in response to both the decretive (sovereign) and the preceptive (instructive) wills of God. God doesn’t choose people for salvation without those individuals also exercising their wills to obey God’s command to act in faith and repentance. God effectually calls them to salvation and they in turn call upon Him for salvation (Joel 2:32).

We see the same dual pattern in Acts 13:48. After the gospel was preached we read: “As many as had been appointed to eternal life believed.” God sovereignly “appointed” some to receive eternal life but these also voluntarily exercised their wills and “believed.” In Acts 16:14 when Paul was preaching, “A woman named Lydia… was listening; and the Lord opened her heart to respond to the things spoken by Paul.” God secretly opened her heart while she remained passively unaware of His work. But as a result she actively responded in faith and was saved.

The Revelation and Inspiration of Scripture

One final example involves the revelation and inspiration of Scripture. Scripture is the product of two sets of authors working in concert to produce a divinely inspired and authoritative set of documents communicating God’s preceptive will. Every word Paul intended in the Biblical letters sprung from his own mind, reflecting his own style, his own motives and concerns. Yet all his intentions, thoughts and concerns precisely mirrored those of God long before Paul put pen to paper. Is it possible Paul could have used libertarian free will to write that which was contrary to God’s design? Absolutely not. He was not free to write against what God inspired, yet he freely wrote what he most wanted. God made sure that what Paul most wanted to write was precisely (i.e. every jot and tittle) what He Himself wanted.